Balance

Balance v. to bring into or maintain in a state of equilibrium

Accountants balance books, waiters balance their tray of drinks and food, gymnists balance on the beam, designers and artists consider balance when creating art. Balance the boat, balance your cheque book, balance is all around us. We try to eat a balanced diet, we try to find a balance between work and play, and a variety in our lives, but my question is, what about finding the balance in a person. And no, not talking about the mental stability, but the characteristics.

Now for most of the voyeurs reading my postings, you may know that this author has been playing the dating field with a tenacious spirit void of expectations, but there has been one thing bugging the hell out of me; Where the hell is the balance?

You see, although the men are all different, and all interesting creatures in their own right, I've been finding that not one individual has the right balance that I am looking for.

So to put it simply lets divide these men into 2 categories. From my experience, on one hand you have the "business guys" (for lack of better title). These would be the marketing men, the lawyers, the architects, etc. They are all intelligent, driven, knowledgable in their field and the world around them, respected by colleagues, etc. They can offer intelligent conversation, a quick banter on any topic but seem to lack a spark or passion for life and the oddities of the world.

Then on the other hand, you have what I will call the "artists". The men that fall here are the writers, photographers, designers...the creative type. They are intune with the oddities around them, and have that necessary joie de vie. And while they can also inspire my imagination, they for the most part are aloof, flighty, not so driven, and don't seem to take the world by the balls.

So here I am dancing between these two dating worlds because it seems that I have not met one guy that can reach to each side of these realms. And that is all I want. I want to be able to have an intense conversation about whatever serious issue seems to arise, yet with a quick transition be able to giggle and imagine what a house would look like on the moon.

And that is the conundrum. I wonder if any one person is willing or capable of having both sides of this puzzle? I wonder if seeking this type of balance in a man is reasonable?

After a conversation with a dearest of friend, I figured that the only way it is feasible for me to have this balance is for me to drift between each side. It was said as a joke, perhaps giving myself permission to be able to have several men on the go at one time, but then almost as an afterthought, I realized that the idea wasn't so bad.

Perhaps that is the answer to the conundrum set before me. Or at least the most feasible answer for now. And if that balanced man is around, bring him on!